Summary of Healing Opportunities

Summary of Healing Opportunities (so far):

Area 1: The Past

1. "Seek First to Understand, Then Be Understood:" Women

a. Recall encounters with women accurately and honestly.  Listen.
b. When Spirit is present, calmly teach correct responses.

2. "Seek First to Understand, Then Be Understood:" Self

a. Recall sexual experiences with self accurately and honestly.  Listen.
b. Show concern, compassion and love in dark moments.
c. When Spirit is present, calmly teach correct responses.
d. Positive reinforcement.


Area 2: The Present

1. Experience and Interpret Current Motivations Towards Women

a. Openly consider Jeordi (and any others). Listen. Learn.
b. When Spirit is present, calmly teach correct principles.
c. Determine appropriate actions based on principles. Plan these.
d. Experience the plans. Discuss and modify as needed.

2. Experience and Interpret Sexual Self:

[Mix-'n-Match the following randomly, as needed or desired when all parties are safe]:

a. Becoming comfortable with passive sexual self.
b. Becoming comfortable with active sexual self when safe & appropriate
    1. Casual (5-25)
    2. Enjoyable (25-50)
    3. Intense (50+)

3. Learn Self Control

a. Take any of the actions in 2b (above) but with intent to discover how mind & heart can influence the body (and vice versa).
b. Learn from these and talk about it.
c. Gain confidence through experience (no shame!)

4. What is Manhood?

a. Discussion of Priesthood principles that lead to identity.
b. What is the "Power of Godliness."
c. What do men provide, and how?
d. Faith, trust, and D&C 121.
e. Temple prep scriptures (study as family and with self).

5. Romantic Love (Lauren)

a. Openly and safely consider feelings, motivations, desires. (Listen)
b. Prayerfully consider potential ALL appropriate options.
    1. What should criteria & goals be right now?  For whom?
c. Carefully plan the best action(s)
d. "School Your Heart" (teach) considered, appropriate responses (internal / sexual).
e. Positive reinforcement and reward for correct actions (the Spirit will provide much of this).


Area 3: The Future

1. Develop a clear vision of your role as:

a. Son
b. Brother
c. Father

2. Prayerfully develop personal principles ("code") with which to govern self towards these roles

a. Include how to take care of yourself first (journal stuff, expanded).
b. Write down your code of conduct.
c. Develop specific goals on how to proceed with family (first) then as a missionary.